The Power of Silence

The Power of Silence

For someone like myself who relies greatly upon both written and verbal expression, I have been stopped dead in my tracks this week experiencing the immense power of silence and of the limitation of words. It is humbling because in the desperate struggle to string together sentiment I have been left mute.   But in this experience I was taught a profound lesson. Once I began to let go of my own selfish need of expression, to understand that anything I say would fall short in my intended meaning and perhaps most of all to get beyond my own discomfort of silence, shared emotions and intimate understanding filled the void.   It was a level of communication that couldn’t be reached by putting pen to paper or voice to words.

Life’s lessons often come at seemingly inopportune times. But if we heed them often what feels to be a backward step will prove instead to be a different approach. I have learned that there can be value in silence. That silence is not necessarily the inability to address difficult situations.  Rather when shared with those we love most deeply it is a common ground reached and a level of intimate understanding that has value beyond any utterance.

Hand in Hand

I recently had my semi annual check up with my oncologist and although I have been there many, many times before, the drive down Bayview Ave. to Sunnybrook Hospital still fills me with trepidation. It shouldn’t but it does.  The building stirs up such emotions that I think it will be forever thus.  Anyways this is actually a digression from where I want to be going.

I like to share with you information, ideas and personal reflections relating to cancer, my cancer story, health and wellness and really anything else that I think you may find interesting.

But nowhere will you find posts intentionally trying to stir up fear.  I don’t believe in it.  I think it is a cowardly way to get one’s point across and it undermines intelligence.  Enough said.

Most of you know that my own treatment for breast cancer was and continues to be a marriage of allopathic/medical treatment in combination with complimentary/alternative therapy.  And by alternative I mean nutrition and lifestyle applications.  I don’t believe that these two approaches go head to head but rather hand in hand.  I feel strongly that my medical team is second to none and working completely for my wellbeing.  I am not told what to do rather I am given my options and I make my decisions.  My doctors treat me with the utmost respect, compassion and intelligence.  During my medical treatments I informed my doctors of what I was doing in the natural realm and if concerns on their behalf arose we discussed and decisions were made.

Perhaps some may not be blessed with such care.  If this is the case I encourage you to search for better because in my heart of hearts I do believe that the future of cancer care is now and it is one of tolerance between Allopathic and  Complimentary Health Care with the ultimate goal being the appreciation in each camp of the outstanding value of both.

I’ll end here with a quick but heartfelt congratulations to my oncologist Dr. Sunil Verma @cancermd for his recent promotion to Medical Director, LouiseTemerty Breast Cancer Centre.

And to Dr. Danny Vesperini @dr_vesi for a great conversation and continued good fortune on the links!

These two guys make going to the hospital much easier.

An Ounce of Prevention

I must say that I am humbled by the overwhelming positive response that I have had in this short time with my Facebook Blog. And although I try to share information from sites and sources that I hold true there is a definite pattern that has emerged. The biggest responses that I get are from my personal posts. With that in mind I am offering up the following to you today.  And this will be a chorus that I sing many times.

An Ounce of Prevention

Depending upon what study you read, only a small percentage of cancer is hereditary. On average reports have been stating 5-10%. What exactly does this mean though? What it means is that our lifestyle choices, including exercise, stress management, hobbies, where we live etc. coupled with what we consume have a direct impact on our overall risk of cancer. In Canada statistics compiled from 2009 state that 2 out of every 5 Canadians will have cancer in their lifetime. Sadly this rate has only increased since then.

But here is the thing that for some reason gets lost in the shock value of those numbers. A vast majority of cancer may be preventable. And it is here that we should have the greatest hope. And it is in this area that I hope to make the greatest inroads to awareness. We can make adjustments now and stack the odds in our favour if we just take the time to understand what is needed for our body to function optimally.

Our body is in a constant state of seeking balance. Disease is the manifestation of the body’s inability to achieve such balance or homeostasis. Throughout the disease path undoubtedly our body has given signs and symptoms that it is struggling; tiredness, pain, lack of appetite, sudden weight loss just to name a few. Too often we turn a deaf ear to the body’s talk instead of listening to it and this is when disease can take a foothold.

Our body speaks to us all of the time. If we fail to learn its language we risk losing the early opportunities to make adjustments and provide the tools needed to prevent diseases such as cancer.

The path of prevention is a much friendlier road traveled than the treatment one.

There is so much wisdom in these words;

‘An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure’

In Her Defense

In a few short months I will be graduating as an Holistic Nutritionist. This coupled with my certification as a Cancer Coach will enable me to step in to the world of Alternative Health Care. While I am very proud of this industry and try to live my life by its standard, there are aspects of it that creep up now and again causing me to take pause in my enthusiasm. This particular subject strikes a chord.

Recently Angelina Jolie was back in the news announcing that she had her ovaries and fallopian tubes removed as a cancer preventative measure. This followed her earlier decision to remove her breasts for the same reason. Whether or not you care to know or agree with her making her private life public is not at issue here. The decision of whether or not to follow her story is yours. The motivation for her telling it is hers. What I wrestle with is the judgment put upon her by those who do become involved in her story. Often the loudest critics are from those in Alternative Health.

I do not know much about her journey but I am confident in saying that both of her surgeries were well thought out, researched and motivated by values and feelings that we are not privy to. I am also confident in saying that her decisions were not easy ones.

Whether or not this would be your decision for prevention is not the issue. There is no right or wrong in such circumstances. There are only gut wrenching decisions to be made following the acquisition and assimilation of knowledge and hours of personal reflection.

Being book wise, patient/client experienced or even faced with a similar circumstance, in my opinion, does not qualify anyone to sit in judgment of her choices.

Busted!!

So our microwave caught on fire. I’d like to say that I lit the match but quoting Shaggy “It wasn’t me”. Can’t say I’m sad. I have been trying to get rid of that space sucking nutrient robbing piece of equipment for a long time now but have run in to serious opposition from my co-habitators upon suggesting such a preposterous thing. Looking at me as if I had just been issued a day pass, I get questions like “Well then how would I heat up my Burrito?” “What modern day family doesn’t own a microwave?” “Are you freaking serious?”

My family has actually been pretty good about jumping aboard the nutrition train that I started driving a few years ago. This however appears to be a game changer. Expediency and convenience are trumping my nutrition arguments. And I know they mean business when a family meeting is requested and we have a quorum!

My son has threatened to buy a new one and put it in his room. I guess where a microwave is concerned money is no object. Where to buy one however, seems to be stumping him.

I actually have no idea how this will end. But hoping for it to go my way, I have quietly started to move things in to the space once occupied by our deceased appliance.